Over the past few days, I've been reading status updates, tweets and overhearing some good ole conversations. The one commonality between each was the topic of men and how they were treating each of these particular women. The question is, why is it allowed? How did we arrive to the point of allowing someone else to steal our joy? I think we believe that this person is for us, and therefore, we believe and lean on everyone word or thought he (she) may have about our realities and character. With this said, we slowly began a process of dependence (mentally) and we put our joy and mental health in the hands of someone who may not have/had good and honest intentions about our well-being or future. We shut out our family and friends (some of whom saw the writing on the wall before us) and the only reality were are allowed or told to rely upon is that of the person dictating the how and what we should be or shouldn't be. Again, the question, is he or isn't he the right one for me? The answer requires a complete honest conversation with the self and perhaps a detachment from the dictator of your reality. Listen to that inner voice; it's the one that loves you:)
