Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Gratitude






Sometime ago, I started keeping a gratitude journal. I decided to keep the journal because I was heavily into Oprah and she stated she was keeping one as well. I was also working with a family that suffered a traumatic accident and I had to stay positive to make it through the day. In addition to work, I had read sooooo many self-help books and each one had an underlying theme of gratefulness. So, long story short, I have a gratitude journal. Initially, I was journaling every night before going to bed. I slowly, got out of the discipline of journaling nightly. My journal is carried over year after year, which chronicles my sporadic attempts of tracking what I appreciate in life. I wouldn't say that I'm an ungrateful person and I would also not say that I haven't taken anything or anyone for granted. I would say, however, I do try to appreciate and try to control what is within my power. I understand that I may not like what the circumstances or situations reveal, but I know that nothing is always permanent and there is a lesson to learn and appreciate in all situations. I was told once by a wise and spiritual woman to "count it all joy". I didn't fully understand that statement twelve years ago until I got further on my journey of life. I not only found joy, but also found sorrow and strength. Strength helped me power through the storms too see the rainbow (joy) on the other side.
Through it all, I remained standing. Today, I am challenging myself each day to find something/someone that I am thankful for. Especially, when I am not happy or satisfied about something out of my control. Share your thoughts about gratitude or a story that may illustrate acts of thankfulness :) Sharing is caring!

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

RELAX RELATE RELEASE

Relax, Relate, Release!  Some of you may recall that phrase from a popular 90’s television sitcom called, A Different World. Television sitcoms are rarely a source of vital information, however the phrase, “relax, relate, release” is very applicable. The phrase not only puts a smile on my face but it also brings me back to the essence of me. Relax, relate, release, is synonymous to “wooosaaaw”. Both phrases are intended to calm the mind, body, and spirit. In order for you to feel this sense of rejuvenation, you need to focus completely and mean what you say. Whether, you are the “woooosaw” or “relax, relate, release” type, focus is important. 


Let’s begin with a simple definition of each term: Encarta Online Dictionary:
Relax: To become or make somebody less anxious, hostile, defensive. (Get it together)
Relate: To understand and respond favorably to something, or feel that it has a personal meaning or relevance. (Self-examination)
Release: The removal of something that makes somebody feel trapped, restricted, or burdened. (Let it Go, Part Ways, Give it Up, Move On, Get to Steppin’)

For me, the process usually goes something like this…First, I relax with a deep breath; get a hold of myself usually telling myself to “be quiet, don’t react” until I am 100% clear on the information or situation before me. Next, I “relate” the information/situation and attempt to understand and process the situation. Lastly, I attempt to let it go. My attempt to letting it go arrives after I have mentally brainstormed a solution/resolution that I am comfortable with, and that’s when I let it go! As you can see, I still need to work on the last phase. Great news, I am aware of what I can fix versus what I can’t control. And that my friend is a step in a positive direction for good mental health:)  
            
What formula, phrase, quote or process would you like to share? Whether you are applying it or not, please shareJ Remember, sharing is caring J

A Bunch of "Mess"



When you've been treated like a hard rock over and over again, you tend to carry with you, a bunch of "mess". The mess in each of our lives varies, but we all have some "mess" to deal with. Mess is good to have because it keeps you on your toes (certain types of "mess' that is). The key is how to clean up your "mess" and you definitely need to understand and recognize the "mess" when it appears. The “mess” will appear in many forms; from work issues, family issues, house cleaning or just life in general will sometimes morph into a gigantic ball of mess. Have you ever tried saying “mess” without shaking your head from side to side, along with a little eye rolling? So, my challenge, to you, the reader: Clean up the “mess” in your life and make room for happiness.


http://healing.about.com/od/forgive/a/forgivemeditate.htm