RELAX RELATE RELEASE

Relax, Relate, Release!  Some of you may recall that phrase from a popular 90’s television sitcom called, A Different World. Television sitcoms are rarely a source of vital information, however the phrase, “relax, relate, release” is very applicable. The phrase not only puts a smile on my face but it also brings me back to the essence of me. Relax, relate, release, is synonymous to “wooosaaaw”. Both phrases are intended to calm the mind, body, and spirit. In order for you to feel this sense of rejuvenation, you need to focus completely and mean what you say. Whether, you are the “woooosaw” or “relax, relate, release” type, focus is important. 


Let’s begin with a simple definition of each term: Encarta Online Dictionary:

Relax: To become or make somebody less anxious, hostile, defensive. (Get it together)

Relate: To understand and respond favorably to something, or feel that it has a personal meaning or relevance. (Self-examination)

Release: The removal of something that makes somebody feel trapped, restricted, or burdened. (Let it Go, Part Ways, Give it Up, Move On, Get to Steppin’)

For me, the process usually goes something like this…First, I relax with a deep breath; get a hold of myself usually telling myself to “be quiet, don’t react” until I am 100% clear on the information or situation before me. Next, I “relate” the information/situation and attempt to understand and process the situation. Lastly, I attempt to let it go. My attempt to letting it go arrives after I have mentally brainstormed a solution/resolution that I am comfortable with, and that’s when I let it go! As you can see, I still need to work on the last phase. Great news, I am aware of what I can fix versus what I can’t control. And that my friend is a step in a positive direction for good mental health:)  

            

What formula, phrase, quote or process would you like to share? Whether you are applying it or not, please shareJ Remember, sharing is caring J

A Bunch of "Mess"

When you've been treated like a hard rock over and over again, you tend to carry with you, a bunch of "mess". The mess in each of our lives varies, but we all have some "mess" to deal with. Mess is good to have because it keeps you on your toes (certain types of "mess' that is). The key is how to clean up your "mess" and you definitely need to understand and recognize the "mess" when it appears. The “mess” will appear in many forms; from work issues, family issues, house cleaning or just life in general will sometimes morph into a gigantic ball of mess. Have you ever tried saying “mess” without shaking your head from side to side, along with a little eye rolling? So, my challenge, to you, the reader: Clean up the “mess” in your life and make room for happiness.


http://healing.about.com/od/forgive/a/forgivemeditate.htm